I am sure everyone has seen it, the video the father posted on facebook after his daughter posted an open letter to her parents (that she never wanted them to see) complaining about everything she has to do. If you haven't seen it yet it's here. It seems like all of my friends on facebook think this guy is a fantastic parent who is sticking it to his bratty kid. While I agree the kid should be punished for disobeying her parents I can't jump on the "at a boy" bandwagon.
I've shared before that my stepmother seemed to make it her goal in life to keep me down and publicly humiliate me in such a way that no one could ever really call her out on bad parenting. I am so glad that facebook wasn't around when I was in high school. It's just too easy to post something in the heat of the moment, we were all teenagers we know teens don't have the best impulse control or a firm grip on true consequences to most actions.
If my high school friends saved the notes passed between classes I bet you would find something very similar to what this 15 (keep that in mind, 15) year old girl did. Did she lie to her God-knows-how-big friends list about her chores? Of course she did SHE'S 15! Was she acting like a total spoiled brat? Without a doubt but guess what Dad, one doesn't get spoiled on one's own. Perhaps you should have nipped this in the bud years ago.
What really gets me is the reach of this video. Not only did he post in on his daughter's facebook wall but it went viral. I am sure he had something to do with that too. Like I said, God knows how many "friends" she has that can see her wall but my younger nieces and nephews have around 500 friends each, I think you add everyone you go to school with at that age. 15 is such a hard time for a young girl, obviously this one wasn't in the best place when she vented. Posting this for everyone in her world to see, to me, is as bad as putting her on stage and taking her over your knee for all the world to see. I get that she put your family out there first but, do I really have to say it again? SHE'S 15 and venting while you took the time to set up a video, taker her laptop, retrieve and load your weapon and speak to your ex-wife about your plan.
Maybe I'm a softie but my heart breaks for her. Ground her, blow up her computer, make her do that entire chore list as she described it, whatever you need to do but keep in in the family. If you want her to learn how she should behave set an example.
Perhaps my problem is that I am not looking at this as a parent but I was that embarrassed, angry, confused 15 year old. I still carry those scars today. The way I was treated then led to behavior I am not necessarily proud of and would not want my daughters to repeat.
There is so much more I could get into with this video but we would be here all day.
How do you feel about this?