not getting it

I understand that my family wants me home and home for good - I want it too but that's not the plan.  When Doc was wounded and we were finding out just how bad it was people would get excited when asking if this meant that his army career was done.  I know they don't mean to be insensitive but every time it's like a throat punch.

Today my sister asked if Doc's trips home would keep him from reenlisting (reenlisting is all part of our plan, I might get into it at some point...).  I almost hung up on her, I don't know why I got so upset.  She knows my worries about going home and leaving the military.  I feel like once the army tells him that he's no longer needed that's it, he really is never getting better.  I don't know, leaving the army and going home for good is scarier than marrying him and going into this life.

I told her that to him, to us really, home now means where our family is.  I am sure all his trip home did was make him miss me and the girls even more.  Being back there reminded him of what he has here and why he does what he does (like reenlisting) because it is what is best for his family. 

I know I am just being oversensitive, she didn't mean anything bad by it she just wasn't thinking.  I guess I it all comes down to her excitement over my husband's inability to do the job he loved.  I think I need to just calm the eff down sometimes.